Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Playing Favorites


I don't have favorites. No favorite color, food, song, nothing. I even found myself saying one day that my husband was "one of my favorites" because I have so conditioned myself not to have favorites.

I get asked about favorites fairly often and often struggle to defend my lack of answer. It's not that I don't care, I promise. I'm not apathetic to life. I care deeply about the world around me. I want lots of color, lots of food, lots of song, everything. I just don't want to be fenced in. I refuse to choose and thereby let go of the chance to have all the others. If I choose a favorite color does that mean that folks will bring me only that color? If I have a favorite food does that mean I have to have that for every occasion? I don't want to miss out on any of the goodness life has to offer.

Today I'm wondering, though: am I too open-minded? I'm a musician but I don't have a favorite kind of music. I can play bits of different kinds of music but there's not much I do exceptionally well. I like to write but I dabble with visual arts as well. Like an un-cropped photo, I try to fit in everything. Would my artistic endeavors have more substance if I were willing to cut some things out?

I used to think that jack-of-all-trades was a good thing, until I learned the rest of the phrase: master of none. I'm no longer satisfied with the jack's freedom to dabble; I'm ready for mastery. To that end, I'm going to go on record here - on the internet that never forgets anything - to name a few favorites.

  • My favorite music is jazz.
  • My favorite foods come from Latin America
  • My favorite color is yellow. And orange. Wait, can I have green too?

This might take a while. I'm working on it though, because I'm no jack.

Saturday, July 9, 2011

Path of Bliss

"The more altruism we develop in a day, the more peaceful we find  ourselves. Similarly, the more self-centered we remain, the more  frustrations and trouble we encounter."
Dalai Lama, from Path of Bliss
I'm testing blogging from my phone today. There are quite a few things to ponder in that statement alone but I also stumbled upon this quote, which I've been meaning to ruminate on. Sitting in a peaceful spot with my coffee, I've decided to test the quote. Will the children - not to mention the general public - cooperate?

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Thou Shalt Not Be Bored

Recently we got a notice about a parenting seminar at the elementary school. "What to do with your kids this summer." I figure we're pros by now and there's no reason to waste an evening. Stan urged and almost insisted. Stan was right. I went to the seminar and came home with more ideas than I could possibly use in a summer. It doesn't seem fair to hoard them all so here's a smattering to share with brothers and sisters-in-arms.

Pie made from farmer's market cherries
Kitchen:
  • bake and decorate a cake
  • kids plan family meal and create shopping list
  • have a tea party
  • have kids pick foods to try at the farmer's market and plan a meal around what you bring home

Outside:
  • watch the sun rise
  • sit on the porch or by a window and watch a storm
  • go star-gazing
  • paint letters, words, and numbers with water and a paint brush
  • use crayons and paper to make rubbings of tree bark patterns
Science experiment from last year. We love goop.
Science:
  • gather a pile of objects and have kids guess which will sink and which will float
  • use ribbon, bubbles, kites to see which way the wind is blowing
  • find sources of iron in the house using magnets. Do different magnets behave differently? 
  • make goop with corn starch, water, and food coloring
  • try to sprout new growth from "garbage" food (carrot tops, potato eyes)
Math:
  • take timed walks around the block. Practice telling time as you race to beat your family time.
  • have kids throw a ball and then measure how far it went. How does that compare to the next throw?
  • have child pick up 1+2+3+4 things in his/her room
  • have child add up all the change in your pocket or purse

Service:
  • bake for a family friend
  • offer to help a neighbor with simple yard work
  • write letters to elderly in church congregation or in a nursing home
  • pick up litter in the neighborhood

Color experiments
Creativity:
  • make cards and send them
  • give kids a list of words and have them write a story using as many as possible
  • write a song together
  • have child draw on paper with a white candle then paint over it with watercolors
  • study the work of one artist and see if children can imitate the style
  • place 1 or 2 drops of food coloring on opposite sides of a bowl of milk. stand back and watch them swirl. (this moves to science if you talk with the kids about why it works that way.)
Active:
  • garden
  • observation walks
  • create an indoor bowling alley with empty coke bottles and a rubber ball
  • hide a treasure, make a map, and send them on their way.

This is our dentist's office.
Imagination:
  • have child choose 4 to 5 pictures and then number them. The child tells a story using each of the pictures. 
  • take an imaginary space trip with your child
  • visit ethnic shops, food stores, and restaurants. Look at maps to plan your trip, and use books to set the stage before you go and review the culture afterwards.
  • camp out in the living room. tell stories by flashlight.

Processing Summer:
  • make a poster or scrapbook from ticket stubs, program notes, etc as the summer goes on
  • keep a journal with drawings and thoughts from each day or each outing
  •  use a large calendar to write messages, weather reports, or notes on activities

I hope these ideas help you and your children (not to mention me and mine) have blissful summer fun. Just a reminder, the vast majority of these ideas are not my own but came from a swath of parenting resources. I wish I could credit the creators but like much parenting brilliance, these ideas came without bylines.

    Sunday, May 15, 2011

    Error Codes

    Blogger (blogspot) has not been functioning terribly well this week. There was some update that went badly and then they had to restore to a previous state. Most of this has been fixed but somewhere in the midst of it, my blogger profile is tainted. I finally figured out how to get into editing and posting through a few sneaky tricks but if I try the official method I end up with a variety of error codes. This got me thinking ... what if there were error codes parenting?

    ERROR_ARENA_TRASHED
    There are too many toys in this room.

    ERROR_BAD_ENVIRONMENT
    Someone is cleaning your room today. Who will it be?

    ERROR_TOO_MANY_THREADS
    There are 17 dirty pairs of underwear under your dresser.

    ERROR_CHILD_NOT_COMPLETE
    Homework must be complete before dancing naked down the hall.

    ERROR_ARITHMETIC_OVERFLOW
    Each child is responsible for her own homework.

    ERROR_WAIT_NO_CHILDREN
    Tell a parent where you are going before you leave.

    ERROR_NESTING_NOT_ALLOWED
    Worms stay in the dirt - the outside dirt.

    ERROR_NO_VOLUME_LABEL
    Spiders are not grounds for shrieking.

    ERROR_SHARING_VIOLATION
    Do not steal the preschooler's toys.

    RPC_S_PROXY_ACCESS_DENIED
    Proper identification required for Mama's 4-inch heels.

    ERROR_DEVICE_DOOR_OPEN
    Close the fridge. Close it. Really. Close the fridge NOW!

    ERROR_NOT_ENOUGH_QUOTA
    Eat your vegetables.

    ERROR_BAD_FUNCTION_TABLE
    You left dishes on dinner table for someone else to clean up.

    ERROR_VIRUS_INFECTED
    Washing hands after potty is not optional.

    ERROR_ILLEGAL_FLOAT_CONTEXT
    Flush the potty.

    ERROR_ATOMIC_LOCKS_NOT_SUPPORTED
    Your hair is still full of shampoo bubbles.

    ERROR_NETWORK_BUSY
    Stop interrupting my sentence.

    ERROR_EXTRANEOUS_INFORMATION
    I don't need to know what color shoes your teacher wore today.

    ERROR_BAD_ARGUMENTS
    Don't make me settle this. You don't like my solutions.

    WAIT_TIMEOUT
    Next time settle the argument for yourselves.

    ERROR_FAIL_SHUTDOWN
    Go back to bed and stay there this time.

    ERROR_NO_INHERITANCE
    Just you wait.

    That should get me started. What error messages would you like to see for your daily life?

    Monday, May 9, 2011

    From the mouth of preschoolers

    Puddin's song of the moment: "A big daddy and a short mama."

    I have no idea what the rest of the lyrics are since she went to mumbles and hums after that. It must be a work in progress. I also have no idea what prompted the song at this particular time. I know that she does speak truth, however. Notice in the picture here that my feet are barely touching the ground and yet Stan's knees are bent past 90˚.

    On a different note, Stan and I should have our picture taken together more often. I had to go back to last summer to find anything with both of us in it that didn't center around children. Seeing this, I'm longing for summer and vacation and time to enjoy life with my darling dear. The busyness of spring is wearing me out.


    Friday, May 6, 2011

    World Cocktail Week: 2011

     I often think that it would be lovey and sophisticated to have a cocktail but then I look at a recipe, look at a wine bottle, and just can't pull myself together for the increased effort. Plus, I really do love wine a whole lot.

    Once a year, though, Stan and I branch out. Somewhere along the way, someone decided that May 6-13 would be World Cocktail Week. [click here for the when/where/why] For this week each year, Stan and I set aside the wine and have a different cocktail each night after the kids go to bed.

    Thursday, May 5: The week hasn't officially started but Stan and I decided to warm up (and give a shout to Cinco de Mayo) with a South of the Border (Tequila, Kahlua, Lime.)
         The recipe said to rim the glass with a 50/50 brown to white sugar mix. Huh? That really shouldn't be necessary so we skipped that step. Since I don't like the super sweet stuff and adore the tart of lime, the decision worked well for me. Stan's sweet tooth balked at the pucker, though, so next time [which might end up being next year] we'll make that extra effort.

    Friday, May 6: The official start. Gin Fizz (Gin, simple syrup, lemon, club soda.)
         I don't know how I've managed to not have this before. Gin is my favorite spirit. Citrus is my favorite flavor. Bubbly is my favorite water. This drink was tailor-made for me but somehow I've missed it all these years. Gin Fizz was a slam dunk, except that we weren't sitting on the deck of the cruise ship but instead in our living room after dark. Cool, refreshing, light, and a small enough amount of alcohol that I could still drive the speed boat if I needed to. (and if I had one.)

    Saturday, May 7: Stan started installing our new microwave as a Mother's Day present. There were far more difficulties than expected and he included Monkey & Peanut as junior electricians. Finally, an hour past kid bedtime, they hit a hurdle that couldn't be jumped that night and called it quits - with the new microwave still on the floor. After all that work (while I played math games on my phone) Stan made a grocery run to buy me flowers. For all that and more, the drink of the day was Stan-centric. Mud Slide (vodka, Kahlua, Bailey's, cream) but not the frozen kind, which would have required cleaning the kitchen a little bit.

    Sunday, May 8: We had a big family shabang for Mother's Day and I'm pretty much always in charge of bringing the drinks. We packed up a mini-bar and hit the road. (Many thanks to Pa who helped out with all the stuff I forgot - namely the equipment. I didn't forget any ingredients but didn't take a lick of bar ware. The three choices of the day were Daquiri (light rum, lime, simple syrup,) Parisian Blonde (dark rum, triple sec, cream,) and XYZ (light rum, triple sec, lemon.) The Daquiri (classic, not frozen) was the big hit of the night. The second batch we made used a light/dark rum mix and a lemon/lime mix. It went over quite well but we're not sure if it was the actual ingredients or the accumulation of them. It has been suggested that Parisian Blonde would be better with chocolate ice cream instead of the half & half we used. Also, by the time we got around to making the XYZs we were out of light rum and had to use dark instead. This turned out just fine but would probably be more lovely in the lighter version.

    Remember the part at the top where I mentioned that hard work of cocktails vs. the ease of wine? Three drink choices, 6 adults, lots of juicing. It was worth it: we enjoyed tasting and experimenting, which is what this week is about for Stan & me. Next get-together we're going back to wine though.

    Monday, May 9: Kamikaze (Vodka, Triple Sec, lime, simple syrup.)
        It's like a margarita with vodka. Nice refreshing drink to finish off a day that wasn't refreshing on it's own. Kid drama melted away as I sloshed gently into relaxation. Note to self: light dinner and then cocktails doesn't work so well. And that was with the toned down version of the recipe.

    Tuesday, May 10: Maiden's Prayer (Gin, Triple Sec, Lemon Juice.)
        I came home from Bible study and Stan met me at the door with this suggestion. I love the simple play on events here. I don't think Stan did it on purpose but maybe we should give him credit anyway. We had to substitute lime juice since we'd run out of lemons. Don't know if you noticed but so far this week only two of the eight drinks haven't requited lemon or lime. Citrus pleases me greatly. This week has been hard on our citrus stash - although we're flush in grapefruit right now. Not too many drinks calling for grapefruit, which is a shame, if you ask me. Anyway, the drink was a little more bracing than a maiden might want with lime but would be lovely and subtle in the lemony version called for.

    Wednesday, May 11: White Russian (vodka, KahluĂ , milk.)
         This is a go-to drink for Stan so it's sort of cheating when we're supposed to be exploring. We had a lot going on with a school activity so we went simple for this night.

    Thursday, May 12: Sea Breeze (vodka, cranberry juice, grapefruit juice.)
         We finally found a way to use our grapefruits! This one is light and breezy (go figure,) the kind of drink I could easily drink too much of accidentally.

    Friday, May 13: Grand 'O (Grand Marnier, orange juice, soda water, lemon juice and a strawberry garnish.)
         I wanted to finish the week with a bang- something totally new and unheard of in our house. I noticed we had plenty of Grand Marnier so I checked their site and found this recommendation (among many other tasty-looking options.) The lemon and orange blend nicely with the Grand Marnier so make a rich, tangy treat.


    On Saturday night, Stan and I had a date and I jumped at the chance to go to a wine bar for dinner. The adventure of cocktail week is great fun - and we'll probably play along again next year - but it's good to be back in the grape.